CONTROL-CONTROL-CONTROL

Recently I have been observing my life and the attitude of other people in front to different situations and I got surprise to see how our need for control dominate our life so much.... And the funny thing is, that in stead to put our energy in learn how to control our perception in front to other people and to situations , we just run out ourselves trying to control the behave of others: we criticise our government for the decisions they take, we would like to teach our bosses the correct way to manage their company and the people who work for them, we pretend our children have the same principles and view of the world that us, we expect our husbands or wives act in specific ways and so on...

Them, we get frustrated because it does not matter how hard we try to reach our target we always fell... Why? Because we can not control any thing out of us.

I asked myself: why so much hanger for control? Why is it all about? And the answer was so clear: FEAR . The problem is that real love and feeling of security can not coming from outside, we need to find that inside of us, we need to learn to trust the process of life and to accept it.

How many times a week you have to get up early to be sure the sun will be there when your children wake up? How many things you have to do to ensure spring will arrive? Where is your big bank account where you safe air for the times you get old or for your children? How many times from a situation you thought was horrible and out of control you got something beautiful or courage?

I tell you: I started to learn the control go.. when something or some one irritate me, I look to an other place, I choose an other though, I reaffirm to myself that I am safe and their just have to leave their lives, that what they do is not my busyness (even if that person is my son), I remind myself that no one can take away my internal peace at less I gave them permission to do it. I remind myself of all the times I have lived sad or stressful situations and how always something good birth from that. I remember the time I have trust other people and every thing has been good. I recognise that what I know now is the result of my experiences, so every one has to live their own experiences, has to walk their own path.

I started to learn to trust the process of life and to look every new situation with curiosity, as a child, to see how it will unfold. I started to feel relax and light.

So what about you... would you like to try ? :-) It gives you a lot freedom.